The Rules for the New Modern Wedding

I agree so much with this great article! I will give my thoughts on each rule and you can read the original article too. I would love to see your thoughts in the comments!

The old rule: Thou shalt not steal the bride’s thunder by wearing white to a wedding — oh, and black’s out of the question, too.

I didn’t realize wearing black was pretty much frowned upon. But the golden rule is not to one up the bride. Also, don’t dress like a slut…I’ve seen it way too many times.

The old rule: Thou shalt not take photos on your smartphone, because … wait, what’s a smartphone?

I can not emphasize enough on letting the photographer do their job and take the pictures. And not just because I am a photographer. It has always bugged me. Follow the rules of the couple if they have specified them. If they haven’t are least be respectful.

The old rule: Thou shalt send in your RSVP via snail mail.

Yes, always be courteous and RSVP. And do so in the way the couple requested.

The old rule: The bride and groom are expected to create a registry. And thou shalt not stray from the items on the list.

Always always always stick with the registry the couple made. They made it for a reason and to make it easier on you to buy them a wedding gift. You can not go wrong with their registry….or money. Money is always good. Since a lot of couples already live together they more than likely have a lot of the main stuff.

The old rule: Thou shalt respectfully participate in all wedding traditions, including the throwing of the bridal bouquet.

Don’t be a party pooper! The bride is doing a bouquet toss because she wants to which she wants her single girl friends to participate. I know it may be embarrassing but just humor the bride and do it!

The old rule: Thou shalt attend every second of the wedding ceremony, which will most likely be in a religious setting. Then, you can attend the party.

I understand there are reasons you may not be able to make the ceremony since it’s earlier in the day than the reception is but if you can go to the ceremony even if you do find it boring. This has always bothered me when it’s a younger couple and all the friends show up to the reception but are nowhere to be seen at the ceremony. Don’t just come for the party part of the day. You were invited to their day and that includes the ceremony. Just be respectful.

The old rule: Thou shalt consider bringing a plus one if and only if the invitation makes it clear that a person other than you is being invited.

Typically the invitation will be addressed to Ms. Jane Doe or Ms. Jane Doe & Guest. Only bring a friend, meaning boyfriend or girlfriend if it says & guest. Obviously if you are engaged or married and the couple knows this then it’s fine to bring your fiance or spouse. But it’s best to not assume and bring whoever you want unless it’s clear.

The etiquette to weddings is different for each one and typically if you know the couple well enough you will know what to do if there is something you question. Of course you can always ask the bride or groom but try not to bug them.

Here is the original article: Not your parents’ wedding: The new do’s and don’ts for modern wedding guests.

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